Newsstands and art houses have been buzzing about adult sex addiction since earlier this year. Newsweek even ran a cover story late last year, claiming that America was already in the middle of a full-on epidemic, and noting the increasing number of people being treated for “hypersexual disorder.”

We talked to a couple of New York residents aboutNew York adult sex experience, as well as what they have to say about the idea of adult sex addiction. Read on for their stories, presented with their numbers, you know, the figure representing the “number people you’ve slept with,” the one you’re supposed to keep a record of but never really admit to.

Lisa, 25
Her Number: 17

New York is a city filled with beautiful people. How do you avoid being caught up in the moment and not have sex with them?

A friend and I picked up an indie film director who had a hot release this year. It happened at his screening after-party in Brooklyn. We managed to get us three kicked out for making out at the bar. So we went back to my place in Bushwick and had our way with him. It was kind of weird, but fun. I woke up the next day on my living room floor with a garbage bag as a pillow. Classy.

There exists an absolute double standard when it comes to the number of partners guys can have versus girls. I do think addiction to porn exists. I know someone who became so obsesses with porn that he couldn’t have sexual relations or chemistry with other people. So sex addiction probably isn’t far from that.

Nikki, 28
Her Number: “I lost count.”

I once did it with a guy I met on the subway, in the middle of the street at the Upper East Side under a scaffolding. I’m quite sure we would’ve been arrested for that. I once also had a threesome in a nightclub restroom.

Yes, sex addiction exists, but society dictates that hooking up is a “problem” that leads to guilt or shame. I think it’s much easier to get away with being skanky in New York City because your circles don’t need to know what you’ve been up to. If I lived in a small town upstate, I’ll probably the town whore.

As far as numbers go, I stopped counting back in 2007. I absolutely have no idea how many people I’ve had sex with, and I also don’t know how much I weigh, because numbers just give you stress. I say live free, die happy.

So are you from New York and what to have se? Experience New York adult sex at its best! Find hot New York singles here at CitYSex and fulfill your steamy hot fantasy just like these with these girls that I interviewed. And start counting the numbers. 

I recently had a discussion with my female friends about how awkward it is to meet guys at bars. They were all sharing their frustrations regarding the whole “giving out their numbers” process. They feel that they have to give it out just to be friendly, and maybe to get rid of the guys who have been hitting on them through the night. However, there are some guys who really make it tough for girls to be nice.

The best way for girls to avoid that awkward first date is not to give out their numbers entirely. As a guy, I know all there is to know about the getting the numbers game. If an attractive woman is giving me signs of hope, I’m going to try and get those digits, because I always assume she’s out to find a date like I am. With that in mind, here are a few adult dating tips to remember so you can avoid giving out your phone number:

Safety in Numbers
A lot of guys wouldn’t dare ask for your number when you’re in the company of your friends. It’s just too awkward for them, and they wouldn’t want to risk being rejected in front of others. Guys will find an opportunity when you’re away from your friends to get your phone number, so stick with them.

Giving Them the Cold Shoulder
Don’t ask questions, avoid eye contact, and just maintain the general appearance of someone who is trying to get away. If you do all these, even the most confident guy will just give up hope and walk away.

Stay Away From Dark Corners
Getting yourself trapped in a private place with a dude you’re trying to stay away from will only encourage him to try and ask for your digits. He’ll assume you want to be alone with him, even if it’s just accidental.

Just Say No
If a guy asks for your number and you don’t have plans to go adult dating with him or even call and respond to his texts, just tell him “no.” When a girl denies me this way, I am instantly embarrassed and hurt a little. However, I ultimately have respect for her because she didn’t give me false hope.

Phantom Boyfriend
While most guys would want proof that the number you gave them is real, they wouldn’t need to find out if a boyfriend is real. They may try to make you look stupid by telling you they just wanted your number so you could be “friends,” but in most cases, they’ll just back off. 

During the time of my adult dating relationship with my last girlfriend, there were times when I got spiteful. There was a time when she forgot to tell me she was already home after a night out with her friends. After this, I vowed to “forget” to tell her when I’m already home after a night out with the boys. When she would forget to respond to my question via text, I would add that to the number of times I would ignore her questions via text. It was an eye for an eye, which is really kind of immature.

Adult dating makes us vindictive. Here are a few examples on how to seek revenge on your significant other:

Flirting
This kind of revenge plays out consistently throughout adult dating relationships. When a couple goes out, what usually happens is one person gets hit on or “talks too long” with someone of the opposite sex. At this point, the partner can do one of three things: integrate themselves into the conversation, just stand there and look stupid, or flirt with someone for their significant other to see. This is like saying, “Look, I’m desirable too,” or “if you’re going to flirt, then so will I.”

Having Sex With a “Strategic” Person
It’s quite unfortunate that there are people who don’t always take sex seriously. This can be used as a very effective tool for revenge. Let’s take the “Pole Theory” for instance. This happens when one pursues people with relationships on both ends of the spectrum of his or her partner’s life. In other words, someone who is close to them like a good friend or someone they hate, like your ex.

Don’t get me wrong, though. Having sex with a random partner will definitely upset your significant other, but it’s going to sting more if you do it with someone they either love or hate.

Rejection Regardless of Actual Feelings
I admit to doing this rather immature maneuver. Once there was a girl who put me in her friend zone, because she “valued” our friendship. So I put this rejection at the back of my mind, knowing she’d be back wanting more than what she bargained for. Over time, I was this attractive friend who did everything to make myself very desirable to the ladies in front of her. I wanted her to realize she passed up on a great opportunity, so I could have my chance to get back at her.

And sure enough, she eventually told me she changed her mind. I didn’t even hesitate to think if I was still into her. I just said, “That’s too bad. I only like you as a friend.”